As some of you may know, me and my GF for 2 and a half-ish years broke up. Classic tale of college breaking up a couple, to make a long story short. ANYWAYS, we've been talking to each other about she wants to still be friends blah blah blah i dont give a fuck. The point is i still want to be with her but she feels that I need some time to "grow up" and have a more "college experience" like she is having. (o btw college experience to her means hanging out with friends and getting drunk and going to, lets just say not very smart places, to hang out with her "friends") Now im alittle mad as you can tell only because when i talk to her on the phone ALL she talks about are her new friends this and her new friends that... I definitley feel as if her new pals have taken her away from me. Ok SO NOW, heres the part thats got me feeling a little wierd.
1. she stills wants to be with me
2. she wants to be just friends just not right now (w/e the hell that means, i call her everyday and we talk as if we never broke up :/)
3.ive tried to come off as subtle as possible to explain to her that i plan on being faithful in this "downtime" in our relationship.
4. So has she " i think" thats the shitty part about being subtle is that i cant ask her out fucking right.
5.O f course guys are totally hitting on her shes a bombshell
now i dont think i have any reason to be suspicious but well what do you guys think? dont give me that other fish in the sea crap i dont really care right now. ive dated this girl for 2 and a half years and if there is a way to fix this relationship im gonna try it.

if i can remember anything else ill update

Well, first off if I can be frank. The college life is nothing but, getting drunk, laid, and stupid fun. But it depends on is she far away? if so how far? do you trust her? and the fact is that if you don't trust her it won't work. See, my reasoning behind it it. I'm married, 20 years old, 21 in months. But, I'm in the military I leave for sometime 2 weeks at a time and right now i'm 3 1/2 months not coming back to the states for another 3 months. So, if i didn't trust my wife I wouldn't have gotten married before this. Now, your choice are, if she is close go talk to her and be frank about it. Tell her how you feel, and lay it all on the table. If she doesn't want tokeep whatever you had then you know it sucks, but you can't get down about it. I've seen a lot of this stuff being in the military, a lot of my buddies are in deep shit than this. However, sounds like you like her a lot so go get her. that's all I can say at the moment.

Man about the whole friends thing i just cant be friends with a girl I find physically attractive if they dont want to go out with me or ive broke up with them.

Its probably due to the fact that when i try to be friends with them I am overpowered by the desire to *You Know*. I could try to hang with them but my desires would only intensify until I reach breaking point and would I bother to go through all that for a meaningless friendship.

Im not sure its the same with you guys but thats how it is for me.

Anyways if your schools full of nerds youve got nothing to worry about as far as them hitting on her goes however if its full of the complete opposite *You Know* :P

Yeah i have a wierd thing where if i find out my gf has been with another guy shes dead to me.lol. Yeah yeah the whole if its right its mean to be stuff good advice sometimes, but i cant help but feel this situation can be fixed. She goes to a college about 4 hours away from where im at. :(

[Moved to Confessions]

I shouldn't have to keep doing this people, if it's personal shit, it's pretty much guaranteed to go in Confessions rather than Opinions.

Haha maybe there should be a dating service thread... but then again hundreds of MGS nerds giving advice on love would be an abomination XD

I'm having the exact same thing as you. Your my age right? let me shed some light on what I'm having:

1) We have broken up but we still have feelings.
2) We talk on the phone every night, and we talk about bollox just like we used to (sometimes horny talk)
3) EVERY guy wants to be with her, many people 'love' her which is crap considering I was the one that ever truly did.
4) Becuase of this it makes me feel like crap sometimes and its hurtful.

I have got to ask myself whether to let go of the best girl in the world that could possibly not happen, or stick true to what I feel and hope it turns out to be a 'Happy ending'

Girls man, they don't know what they want it pisses me off sometimes.

well, all I can say is that women have this amazing power to be some of the greatest liers in the world. I'll use what I've learned about women like them and maybe it'll help you out.

okay, a lot of women out there aren't usually satisfied with having just one partner (usually because they want so much attention that it's impossible to get from one man/woman...just in case), so they'll break up and say they want to be friends, flirt with everbody and their grandma, then call you up when they need that confirmation that she is still stringing you along...like a backup plan I guess.

Yep, if all else fails they can fall back on you. It's fucked man and they don't think men are emotional as they are. At least we don't have periods :lol:

@ urban combat: Im 19, and yeah what we got going on is pretty similar lol sooo i guess welcome aboard!

yeah i am very aware of shit women try to pull by stringing guys along but ive told black and white "if you have or ever plan on cheating/ being with someone just fucking let me know so we can end it like adults"

idk the whole situation is fucked up -_-

Mate, your best bet (as lame as this sounds) just sit down with her and talk about what the hell she wants. And if you can't live up to her expectations...there's always more fish in the sea :lol: jk

If you actually fingered her in public then you are somewhat of an exhibitionist.
If she's that way as well then make her do it in front of other people. You guys will have a great time that way.

@ reply above: WTF ROFL

What? Didn't you say you groped her a bit in public or something?
If I'm mistaken then sorry for the mix-up.

No your right i totally did I just dont think your suggestion would help :lol:

Well, I'm going to be completely honest with you.

I've met a lot of girls in my life. I'm not saying I've dated all of them, I'm just saying I've known a lot, and all different kinds. I've known the slutty types, the drinkers/drug-users, the non-drinkers/drunk-users, the bookworms, and every other thing you can possibly think of. I've even met the type of girl that you, no matter what happens, you seriously consider this type of chick, even if she's the only one in the world, to be 100% honest and trustworthy. A girl who couldn't lie if she had to.

Guess what... they all lie. They all have their secrets and they all have their way of hiding things.

I hate to tell you this, but if she's off in college getting drunk and she wants you to "grow up and have the same college experience she's having", I guarantee you that she's fucked at least one guy. Even if you think this girl's genuinely trustworthy like none other, it does not matter. Even if she's acted up until this point that she's totally abstinent, chances are that she's not.

Life can be a real bitch sometimes, but it is what it is, and we can only control so much of what goes on.

I didn't mean for this to turn into such a long post, but I've seriously only met a single person in my life (happens to be a female) who I considered to be genuinely honest. I dated her for like three months but I ultimately decided I needed to move away from that place for good and we split up. I still talk to her, though, and I've told her things I'd never tell anyone else. I trust her with things I wouldn't trust anyone else, but that still doesn't make her completely trustworthy.

She's the only person I've ever truly believed was a genuinely honest person. To make a long story short, I found out otherwise yesterday. I really didn't believe it when I first heard it, because it wasn't her that told me, but then I ended up speaking with her and finding out that it was true. She described what happened as a mistake, and said everyone makes mistakes, which is true. However, if you lie once, there's a damn good chance you'll do it again.

To sum it all up, it's damn near impossible to find a woman who's mature and truly trustworthy. I've been from Maine to Florida three times in my life and I still haven't found a single male or female that is completely trustworthy.

Wow... what a rant.

Youll be fine as long as you dont become a cuddle bitch (If you dont know what a cuddle bitch is click the link)

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?...h&defid=1488834

Haha cuddle bitch... that is soooo righteous lol

naw no way in hell will i be a cuddle bitch.

o and btw heres the update on whats happening... we broke up. i hung up the phone on her because she said i was being a drama whiny guy. Which im all like "w/e ive never been like that" shes changed... i still wanna be with her though because honestly i just wanna make it work. I went on a trial run date with a girl just to see if the choice i made was right... meh... i still love my gf. *sigh*