So yeah, I have a guilty conscience, brought on by two women.
I have a girlfriend and we've been dating for nearly 3 months, but I have this other friend who've I have had a crush on for like 4 years. I met her in 8th, and had a crush on her then, lost track of her for two years, and re-met her in 11th where we had english. When we had group projects, we would do them together, and I usually sat near her when we had a sub. The year went by like that. At my friends birthday, she was there and she complemented me on my cooking, and through a couple of water balloons at me during the water balloon fight.I talked to her a couple of times on the internet over the summer, but didn't really see her. Then this year started and I saw her a couple of times, and talked to her alot over the internet. She started this garden for her 'Silver Knight Project', a silver knight is basically a senior who has done alot for the school and has good grades, and she asked me, my bestfriend and his girlfriend to help. Through the last week we've been working on her garden, and I've gone with her to homedepot a couple of times to get plants and such. Now last friday we were all finishing the garden and I kept looking at her while she bent over to work in the garden, and we've all joked around. After we finished the garden, we all went out to eat and took my car, and she sat next to me in the front seat. At the restuarant we shared a booth, and on the way back she fell asleep in the passenger seat. With her asleep I was admiring how cute she was.
Now the dilemma is that I love my girlfriend, but realize that I still have feelings for the other girl. When I finally convinced my girlfriend to go to prom with me, part of me was unhappy about her going, because if she hadn't gone I would've asked the other girl to the prom as "just friends". I feel guilty about all this, and really dont know what to do about it.

Having gone through something rather similar, its hard to give advice as if the situation was 'simple'. But imo the best thing to do is talk to the girl you like and make sure that there really is a connection between the two of you. See if she would truly date you. Then let your girlfriend off easily. There is no way you are truly doing whats best for her by being with her and liking somebody else. If you really like the other girl more, then see if you can be with her. You'll never know unless you say something.

Either way, it'll be better to know. Whether the outcome is, she doesn't truly want to date. Then you don't have to think about her as often. Or she does, then you've got your dream girl.

To make it worse, my girlfriend had her first sexual experience, not sex per se, with me. And my girlfriend hates cheaters.

don't cheat! You cheat Your girlfriend tells other girls and you will never get another date in your life from anyone in that town. Let your girl friend down if you don't really have any feelings for her. Loveless sex is a bad thing. If you really care about this girl then go for her but don't cheat.

Tbh every lad looks at other girls even when they're dating, it's just being human. I say your probably just overracting about the whole situation (no offence)

You love your girlfriend yes?
And how do you feel about the other? (fancy etc.)

Well, I love my girlfriend, and I think I lust for the other girl, its just that I've lusted for the other girl longer.


@Wraith Shadow: I'm not the cheating kind, and I woulnd't cheat even if I could, I'd feel horrible about it. But If I were to let my girlfriend down easily, and then date the other girl soon after, it would look kinda suspicious.

I know what you mean. I have a concience that won't shut up when I lie. You seem like a good guy. I trust you wil make a good decision

Ive never really been in this situation. Ive had my share of girls, but Ive only ever been in one serious relationship, which is the one Im in now. I love her with all my heart. I look at other girls, of course. Ill see a cute girl, or a chick with a nice ass and say to myself, damn, Id like to fuck that, but Id never actually do it. I admire, but I dont really have any desire to actually go through with it.

The question you need to ask yourself is, do you really love your girlfriend. If the answer is no, then you need to let her down gently, and try your luck with the other girl. If the answer is yes, then if I were you Id stifle the lustful feeling you have for the other chick, and be happy with what youve got.

I say keep on going along with the investigation, see how close she is really getting to you, rather than just spending time with her - she how she reacts to you, how the general mood is, etc.

In other words try analyzing the situation a bit more thoroughly, rather than getting nervous and going with something semi-rash that you might end up regretting in the long-run.