Whenever a tragic event occurs in my life, like when a relative of mine gets badly hurt, or I have to leave a close friend behind or something like that, I don't really feel... sad about it, you know? It's like... when a disabled girl in my English class died a few years ago, a good chunk of the kids in it were so upset they didn't even arrive, and virtually everyone else was crying or in shock... but I really didn't feel any sadness at all. Now, it's not like I'm some horrible monster or anything, I just didn't feel like crying, or getting upset over it, or going down to the guidance office and spending an hour talking about all of my problems. I just accepted that she was gone and I had to figure out the best way to deal with the situation and move forward. But somehow when I saw the kids around me all upset... I almost felt guilty that I didn't feel anything other than a slight twinge of shock, you know? It was almost like being in a chocolate factory with a bunch of kids who are allergic to milk and you're not... you're not sure what to think when they all start sneezing. :P

I mean, even recently... I had to leave this forum I was posting for a quite a few months due to some personal issues with the site, and one of the girls I had known really closely on it actually started crying, and I didn't know what to think because even though I knew I should be sad about it, I just wasn't. All I felt was some increasing discomfort and irritation that I was doing this to her, but I didn't have the slightest urge to get upset or start crying over the events. I can't even remember the last time I cried because I was sad... or lost someone close to me... it simply doesn't happen, you know?

I wanted some help dealing with situations where people around me are upset and I simply don't feel anything... it's just... uncomfortable. :P

I think you're hardened. But sometimes, it's a good thing, infact, all the time.

You and me both.

I often wondered what was wrong with me in times when I should be sad but wasn't.

I had a close friend who died (shit, now that I think of it, I was basically his only friend.) but I didn't really feel anything.

I mean, sure I wish he was still alive, but it doesn't really conjure up the emotions that it should.

I would probably feel the same way mate, that girl was just that, a girl in your class. If it relates to family or friends though, you will feel sadness or upset and all the feelings we never want to feel.

I know if one of my mates, girl, or family would be seriously hurt or something then I would feel quite upset.

Theres nothing wrong with you, it's just all relative to the situation and the type of person you are.

I've had the same thing, my Great Gran died 90 years old a year or two ago, and I felt the same as you, however, when I see bad/hurtful things happen which are completely uncalled for either caused by me or others I always feel a bit sad for the victim.

I've been that way with death my entire life, but in recent years I've learned that it still does find a way to tear at you. If you think your just toughing things through it still eat at you from the inside. And like personally I developed really bad ulcers from the fact.

So now days, while I still feel dead inside to things such as death or personal issues, I still talk about em to friends instead of letting it just 'slide' and having to hurt me sometime down the road.

But she is 90 years old. Your not supposed to feel sad. Its just her time.

But try having a friend your age dying and you still not feeling anything...

Yeah, I'm the same way I lost a friend while I was at bootcamp. I felt nothing when I got back it just sucked not having him around. They told my brother that he talked a lot to his parents a lot about me. Also the night i saw my friends stuck under a Trailer tire after he's been hit by a car, it flipped him and he hit his head on the bumper of the parked trailer and continued till he got stopped by the tire. I just felt mad that i wasn't near him when it happened.. He did live but he's not been the same person since. Like not even close to the guy I knew. I don't see a problem with not crying about that kind of stuff. Some people express it different ways. Like after my friend they sent all us that had been there to the School shrink to talk about it. We all sat there for 30 mins without saying anything till my friend said it was "weird when he was sitting on the TV watching the sofa".. we all laughted and lefted.

If I lost someone related to me...I wouldn't cry. I'm just a cold-hearted bastard. So me and you are the same, I guess.