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| im in love with my best friend but; she told me she dont feel the same way | |
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| Topic Started: Apr 11 2008, 10:51 AM (363 Views) | |
| oldsnake6 | Apr 11 2008, 10:51 AM Post #1 |
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well its as it sez i have known my friend jade 4 10 years now and for 5 years i have like her A LOT and i was told by my friends thats she likes me and it got my hopes up so i ask her and she sez wev been friends for too long but im a bit confused now i talked to her an hour ago and sorted things out but i feel quite depressed that we cant be more but i dont want 2 push her and risk ruining our friendship can any1 tell me how i cud get of this depression and move on with my life im really miserable
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| Mikey | Apr 11 2008, 11:24 AM Post #2 |
 
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Unfortunatly I was in the same kind of position, I got drunk and told this girl who I really like that I loved her, (and there's more to that story but I'm cutting it there) but in my eyes was a friend first and foremost (well, forced myself to think like that) and got slated for it. I'm sorry, it's a bitch of a situation to be, but about the only advice I can give is give it time, I mean you only talked today, I literally couldn't sleep the first night and couldn't eat, but it will lift in time (sounds the shittest thing ever and nonsence, but it's true). |
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| The Passion | Apr 11 2008, 04:04 PM Post #3 |
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Dude you were friends for 10 years and then asked her out of course she wants to stay friends. If you want to be more than friends then you have to establish you want to be more than friends early on in the relationship.Secondly dude lets face the facts here you WILL HAVE TO ASK HER TO BE MORE THAN FRIENDS why? Simple a relationship which has one person loving that person and the other wanting to be friends just dosent work out I know because I tried it.Seriously if you hang around with a chick who you know dosent have interest in you you lose interest in her and you just dont commune anymore thats the sad painful truth. So right now two things are gonna happen A) You will go out with each other B) She says no you still try to be friends with her but just....cant. Just for the record DONT OBSESS OVER ONE GIRL FOR TEN FREAKING YEARS unless you want to go through all this crap again. *Massive rant over* |
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| Roy Campbell | Apr 11 2008, 07:17 PM Post #4 |
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Should you smile because you're friends or cry because that’s all you’ll ever be? Tricky question. Being a cautious fellow, I wouldn't push it any further. I would rather stay friends with someone I really like than take the risk which could lead to us not being friends anymore. There isn't really any 'tricks' to get you out of being depressed, you just have to get over it. Life if full of ups and downs, each one is an obstacle to overcome, you don't want to be the fool who falls on one of these hurdles. 'Life is a bitch', so then anything good you get (i.e being friends) is an bonus, be happy you have that. |
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| oldsnake6 | Apr 12 2008, 06:43 AM Post #5 |
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cheers for that guys im feelin a bit beta 2dae did 11 hours roadworks to take my mind of it thanx agen |
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| Hound | Apr 12 2008, 07:25 AM Post #6 |
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I think you should just stay friends. I sort off had the same experience a few years ago. Things were getting more intimate and at one point she only wanted to stay friends. I was a bit down for some time but you just got to respect her dissision. It needs to feel right for both people, not only you. Then later on when I had a girlfriend, this other girl got really jealous  But everythings fine now.
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| GrayFox | Apr 12 2008, 07:59 AM Post #7 |
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I gotta take a completely different approach, man. If you love her, friendship is never going to work out. Make it clear to her that you love her, and you just cant see yourself being able to stand by and watch her eventually be with someone else. Convince her that noone out there is going to treat her better than you would. Hopefully shell realize that youre right. If not, it really doesnt matter, because chances are the friendship isnt going to work anyway, unless you totally get over her. But if youve been pining for her for ten years, chances are thats not gonna happen either. |
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| White&Nerdy | Apr 12 2008, 02:42 PM Post #8 |
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Hmm thats quite a pickle... I hope you found my advice helpful. |
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| The Passion | Apr 13 2008, 01:45 PM Post #9 |
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Look dude read this you will understand perfectly whats going on. http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html |
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| Yackemflaber | Apr 13 2008, 02:18 PM Post #10 |
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same happened to me instead I'm currently going out with her new best friend, and things are great for all of us, except my (ex)best friend is still single haha, she doesn't realize what she missed out on. It's a working formula because if you're both friends then logically her best friend will be cool like you. anywho that's just what I did you could also try excessively masturbating |
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| Gene | Apr 13 2008, 02:32 PM Post #11 |
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Yeah it happens. My best mate (girl) said most boys fancy their girl best mate. |
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| Solidcon | Apr 13 2008, 04:05 PM Post #12 |
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'Scuse me, female opinion coming through. This is how I see it from her standpoint, so listen up because this happens all the time. She says you two have been friends for too long, this is where her concern lies. She could very well be afraid that if something started and then ended, you'd no longer have your friendship to fall back on. Should could also have been letting you down kindly, you first need to know the difference. Now, if you’re absolutely positive beyond a doubt that you love her and she could reciprocate those feelings, assure her that while you love, you’re friends first and no what happens you two will always have that friendship. Best of luck to ya. |
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| UrbanCombat | Apr 13 2008, 08:37 PM Post #13 |
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I can't deal with that man, you must get annoyed and upset sometimes. Girls, can't live with 'em can't live without 'em. I sure hope my love life gets a bit simpler. Good luck. |
 
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| g-fox | Apr 13 2008, 09:55 PM Post #14 |
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simple,find someone else |
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| Providence | Apr 13 2008, 10:53 PM Post #15 |
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Just thought I would say.. fucking BE CAREFUL with this situation. I don't want to scare you or anything, but I recently had a friends w/ benefits type of thing with my best friend that ended just the other day. I miss her like mad and she hasn't left my mind since we said goodbye.. but as time went on and we kept doing things, I just fell for her harder and wanted a relationship more and more. She never did, and in the end I couldn't hide my feelings and disappointment. It pushed her away, her interest faded, and now we're not even friends because it's too awkward with us feeling so differently now. I wish I could offer some real help and advice on this.. all I know is the end results of my situation, so be very careful with yours. Think through the possibilities and consequences involved. |
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| Mikey | Apr 13 2008, 11:32 PM Post #16 |
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At the end of the day, you have to decide what you want to do, I'd advice caution though, if it was me I would rather have her as just a friend rather than try and push things and potentially push her away in the process, better to settle for you already have rather than ruin a good friendship. But if you feel you can't settle for friendship and want to try get something together, best of luck. As I stated before, it's a horrible situation to be in, and best of luck in sorting it out, one way or the other. |
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| oldsnake6 | Nov 3 2008, 10:50 AM Post #17 |
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Cheers guys for ya Advice i sorted it out with her pretty much......still got those feelings but ill respect what she wants and leave it thanks again 
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The Metal Gear God rips of his ear Snake: stop fucking calling colonel i no how to climb a fucking ladder jesus ow my ear Jesus:sorry bruh gives snake a new ear Snake: thanks jesus Jesus: its cool Metal gear Awesome is FUCKING AWESOME!!!!!! | |
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| Cyberfrost849 | Nov 13 2008, 06:29 PM Post #18 |
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^^ best advice here. There are wayyy too many girls out there dont risk ruining your friendship over just 1. Relationships just aren't worth that MUCH... |
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| The Departed | Nov 14 2008, 08:09 PM Post #19 |
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Good, that's the healthiest thing to do because if you care for this girl, than it won't matter if you're friends or in a relationship, right? So it's good to see that got worked out for you. |
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