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| Topic Started: Aug 8 2008, 11:38 PM (204 Views) | |
| Helikaon | Aug 8 2008, 11:38 PM Post #1 |
Feck off!
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Rightio, I'm not really the kind of guy to post stuff like this, but I really have no idea what else to do. In five days time I find out whether or not I get to go to university. It's not that I'm scared of not going, I'm totally cool with that, if I don't get to go because of my grades then it's time to find a job. I've been thinking for a long time about the military or fire service and if I don't make it into uni then I can finally devote time to getting myself up to standard for the army or the local fire service or maybe even call it quits and head back home to America. What I am scared of is going to university. But it's not that I'm scared of uni, it's more education and I love learning new things. The subject is something that interests me (Joint Honours War and American Studies) and I'm pretty familiar with the uni that I will (hopefully) be going to. The thing that scares me is the change. For the past six (ish) years I've had a group of friends around me, I've had teachers and staff that I reasonably got along with and got to know, I was a good student and I didn't get into much trouble. But with uni I have to make new friends, something that I have real problems with doing since I'm a quiet and pretty shy person. I also have to get to know new teachers. And there's also a really big problem of me not knowing what the fuck to do on the first day of university. I don't know where to go, I don't know times or anything else. That is admittedly my own fault, I didn't pay any attention when the teachers were telling me this, it just went straight over my head. So basically what I'm looking for here is advice and explanations. Please help me understand what the hell is going to happen to me if I go to university and what the hell I have to do. I'm seriously considering just saying nah and pussying off back home or just doing nothing, and I'd hate to regret that in two or three years time. |
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| dJdC | Aug 8 2008, 11:55 PM Post #2 |
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I wouldn't worry about meeting new people. Your going to meet tons whether you like it or not. Professors will team you up with people in group assignments and such. If your dead sexy like me you'll get invited to parties. You'll get invited to parties just because your walking on campus. If you still have a problem meeting people keep an eye out for the bulletin board. Join programs. If you have a roommate your freshman year get to know him, go out to eat and shit. Don't be shady. If your a shy person 10/1 college is going to change that. So don’t worry. You'll have the great time. Look forward to the best years of your life. |
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| Solid Snake The Great | Aug 9 2008, 12:08 AM Post #3 |
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Cobb, Dani or Luke would tell you I have the exact same characteristics that you have described. Face to face, I'm quite quiet and shy. I tend to keep myself to myself and that, stay with the same group of friends etc. The only thing I can suggest is try to put yourself out a bit. If you're like me, you'll find it hard, and possibly a tad embarassing depending on what happens, but the pay-off is likely to be worth it. |
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| The Departed | Aug 9 2008, 10:45 AM Post #4 |
^^Give back my watch dammit!
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When I was in College, I was petrified, because I didn't know how I would make friends as easily as in High School, it all depends on your impression you leave. If you crack jokes, get some laughs, start some small talk, then that's one way you can start making friends. |
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| Roy Campbell | Aug 9 2008, 06:32 PM Post #5 |
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I don't have to go through this until next year but I sure as hell share your feelings. Thats why the Uni I am picking (Which I haven't decided yet) is going to be one where at least one of my friends are going, fuck whatever courses they do, as long as one of my friends go there i'll be OK. It sounds a bit childish but firstly I'm very adaptable with what course I want to do and secondly I suck at making new friends. Its not so much my social skills but becuase I don't tend to like that many people. Take College for example. I just done my AS year at college and even though I came to a whole new place with a whole load of new people, I probably made friends with 2 or 3 people at most. Again, not becuase my social skills suck that much (although they aren't the best I will say) its becuase most of them just make me sick, I can't stand being in the same room as them, let alone talk to them or anything. Thank fuck I had friends from school come to the same College as me or I would have been screwed. Thats why I have to make sure I go somewhere where at least one of my friends go, or everything will go tits up. Err, I know this probably didn't help you whatsoever with your problem but...er, good luck an' all. Edited by Roy Campbell, Aug 9 2008, 06:33 PM.
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| Nils | Aug 11 2008, 09:24 AM Post #6 |
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Dude, I know what you are going through. I have just moved down to Milton Keynes, away from my normal friends group, to move to London in September for Uni. I don't know anyone there, I haven't got assured accomodation yet, I don't know how far I can stretch my finances, and my parents will be a hell of a way away. Best thing to do is not to think about it. I know there is a huge ask there, as its something that is looming right ahead of you, but if you go in with a negative attituide, life there will be harder. I think of it like some kind of right of passage. Everyone has to make these decisions, and if you go head on at them, thinking of the best that could happen in every situation, you are going to be far better off. Don't forget, your friends will go to uni. They will leave the people that stay behind, and then they will have to find new friends groups anyway. Thats just life taking its toll. What do you think holidays are for?  I think we will have a whale of a time. Everyone does. I don't know one person yet who hasnt loved it
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| OuterJaccob | Aug 11 2008, 04:57 PM Post #7 |
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You'll be fine either way, university is a whole different ball game to school or college, it's a lot easier to make new friends there, on the other hand it's not the end of the world if you don't go, there's plenty of opportunities for people without degrees, I didn't get into university when I first left school, but now I've got myself a Masters, as long as you make an effort in whatever you end up doing, you've got a pretty good chance of going places. |
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| The User | Aug 11 2008, 05:08 PM Post #8 |
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I can guarantee that if you pussy put you will regret it for the rest of your life. I'm starting college next week, and I am pretty excited, but I do share some of the same fears you do. I just try to focus on the fact that I have made friends before, so I should be able to do it again.
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| kisskissbangbang | Aug 11 2008, 05:30 PM Post #9 |
Fetish for you.
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You'll find that people are alot more smart and mature ( on school grounds is all i can vouch for) when it comes to uni. So it should be considerably easier to make friends etc I start college in 3 weeks so boo-yaa to that! |
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| Nathan_snake | Aug 14 2008, 03:52 PM Post #10 |
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I'm quite shy myself. Next year i'm (hoping) to do a course on sports management. That means i have to do EVERY sport on the curriculum, and i'll have to learn about the best way to talk to groups of people in each of those sports, and of course, i'll have to somehow figure out how to do 'pep talks' to each and every team before a game and get them ready, (never mind starting everything over again and meeting all these new people) and i don't have a clue what i'm gonna do. I haven't left school yet, but unfortunately i've fallen out with a lot of my 'friends' who ditched me at the first chance and showed who they really are. I'm hoping to make a career out of it in football management (that's soccer for some of you) in the future and if that comes through i'm gonna have to leave a lot behind. I'm scared, but i'll have to deal with it, and if i miss this chance i'll never ever forgive myself for it. I'm sure it's the same for you Heli. |
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