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| Topic Started: Sep 4 2008, 03:31 AM (559 Views) | |
| The Black Devil Of Outer Heaven | Sep 4 2008, 03:31 AM Post #1 |
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I'd like your opinion on something. Obviously I'm not going to automatically take it, but it's good to hear what others say. I have a girlfriend and we've been going out for a while. I since the beginning I knew because she told me that she's Bi. And any red-blooded male out there's reaction is, "Fuck YEA". But anyway, it doesn't bother me. To get to the point I took her to the mall and we were eating and talking and she asked me, "Would you be mad if I kiss girls?" Well the instictive answer is, NO, but that's exactly the opposite of what I felt. And I told her, Yeah I would. And we talked more and she said that her kissing girls while having a boyfriend doesn't really mean anything because girls are just toy's or something like that. But my problem with that was that it seemed unfair to me. Ex. She can be with me and then I'll leave somewhere and she can go make out and fuck around with 6 girls and I come back and everything is automatically fine because girls aren't the same as boy's? Shiiiiiit.... Of course I'm thinking about just saying yes, and we'll just have a cool time what with other girls and such. But was my original objection reasonable? Or is it just me?  And if you have a Bi girlfriend (Or a girlfriend at all  ) How is your situation set up?
Edited by The Black Devil Of Outer Heaven, Sep 4 2008, 03:32 AM.
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| OuterJaccob | Sep 4 2008, 10:57 AM Post #2 |
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Of course you're being reasonable, it's stupid to assume that you can be unfaithful to your partner just because it's with someone the same sex as you. I don't have a bisexual girlfriend, but I did when I was in college, and things like that really pissed me off you know? If she can kiss another girl, it's not going to take too much persuasion or substance abuse for her to kiss another boy. If you have no problem with her kissing girls then that's cool, but you're well within your rights to not want her to, because at the end of the day, what gives her the right to do so? Get it sorted out and do it your way, if she wants to cheat on you then she should face the consequences, there is no wrong way of going about things mate, I hope you can figure out a way of making it work out. BOY FUCKING POWER. Edited by OuterJaccob, Sep 4 2008, 10:59 AM.
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| Viewer_Discretion | Sep 4 2008, 11:28 AM Post #3 |
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This is what annoys me about people who say they are bi. They think that because they are bi that they can go and do something with the opposite sex and it doesn’t count. That's bull. That's not really any different then just fooling around with another guy. I mean gender should have nothing to do with it. I find most bi people like that are the type of people who are bi for the sake of trends. It's really frustrating. I would never fool around with another person no matter what gender when I was thing some one else. That's ridiculous. Complete bullshit. You need to tell this chick that it's not right. She shouldn't think it's okay just because the person is the opposite sex. That's playing with people’s feelings. It's not really any different then you going out and fooling around with another girl. Tell her this. The only difference would be gender. Ask her who she feels about that. |
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| The Black Devil Of Outer Heaven | Sep 4 2008, 01:44 PM Post #4 |
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See? That's what I said to her. That boy's and girls are the same thing, but she argued that she only sees them as "ass". She has urges to kiss girls and such. And that's why she wanted to know if I'd be ok with it. But I just don't think that boy's and girls are different. They both have feelings.... She insist that they're not the same, She likes boy's more than she likes girls. 
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| Viewer_Discretion | Sep 4 2008, 01:51 PM Post #5 |
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Then shes a moron dude. Tell her you have other bi female friends who say it's not right. If it's just ass then why can't you go fuck around with another girl and say..."well it's not like i have any feelings for her" That is bullshit. Honestly I would sort it out or dumb her ass. Sounds flaky to me.  I hate that.Edited by Viewer_Discretion, Sep 4 2008, 01:52 PM.
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| doubleo sigint | Sep 4 2008, 03:25 PM Post #6 |
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Yo thats messed up dude, everything Maryll said is absolutely right, there's nothing much I can add to it. You start of thinking bi girlfriend, thats mad cool then she says that shit to you and you find yourself surprisingly jealous. Like Maryll said just tell her "ok, I'll do the same, I'll fuck all the girls I meet, they're just ass right?". Say that to her and see what she says.
Edited by doubleo sigint, Sep 4 2008, 03:27 PM.
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| Granin | Sep 4 2008, 03:34 PM Post #7 |
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Hmm. This is wrong of her. The difference in gender is not alot of a reason. I agree that what she wants to do is not right at all. However (as a red blooded straight male) your instinct would be to say no. But if she is messing with other girls and your find with it, even joining in for fun. Then its not a problem. However that comes down to sexual play, and if your feelings dont go with it then fine. Tell her you love her and you don't want her messing you around. Sorted. |
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| The Departed | Sep 4 2008, 03:42 PM Post #8 |
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I actually strangely enough had a situation similar to yours. "If I started making out with all the girls I thought of as just kisses, nothing big, would that matter to you?" Her response would be, "Of course it would! You're heterosexual, I'm bi," I sighed, shook my head and said this. "Yes, I'm hetero, I'm only interested in girls, but you're bi, you're interested in both. You couldn't possibly make out with other women just for nothing because it would mean something to you. And even if it didn't, what if it did for the women you wanted to make out with? Just pleasuring yourself to a person and throwing them away when you're done is wrong. No matter what sex it may be." My only opinion on this is that she shouldn't be going down making out with women just because she's in a relationship with you, because it can still mean something to her since she likes girls too, and if it didn't, it could still mean something to the girls she's making out with, and it's unfair to them to just call them toys. |
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| Mr. Snake | Sep 4 2008, 03:45 PM Post #9 |
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Wait, wait, she said kissing Girls is different and alright? It's not the fact it don't mean anything, it's the fact that she's doing that kinda' thing. Hell no, that's like The Mobster, The Wife and The Mistress, except the Wife knows, allows it and has no beef against it. Like Viewer_Descretion said, it's alright if I call you Maryll right? That's not alright, it's like fooling around with another Guy. You've gotta' say 'NO' to that shizzle. Edited by Mr. Snake, Sep 4 2008, 03:48 PM.
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| Viewer_Discretion | Sep 4 2008, 03:55 PM Post #10 |
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Yes you can call me maryll. I really can't stand how a lot of bi people think it's okay to act like that. It dosn't mater if their partner is bi straight or gay. It's still pretty much cheating if you fucking around or making out with other people feelings or not. It's going to hurt someones feelings, If it dosn't it could/will cause a bunch of conflict and probly fuck up the relationship. ARGH this angers me. |
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| Yackemflaber | Sep 4 2008, 08:38 PM Post #11 |
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I had a bi girlfriend, and although I thought it was cool that we could each talk about other hot girls, I wouldn't like her to be goofing around with other girls unless I could too. If that's what she wants to do then it isn't a serious relationship anyways so I wouldn't even need her permission to be with other girls and her. I say you let her only if you can too. |
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| Granin | Sep 4 2008, 10:26 PM Post #12 |
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All valid points. Messing around with someone affect everyone involved, regardless of gender and sexuality. I presume you love your girlfriend? Being too hard on her with the matter could lead to a row, choose your words carefully. |
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| The Black Devil Of Outer Heaven | Sep 4 2008, 10:37 PM Post #13 |
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We were able to talk while she was suggesting it, and telling me the reasons without really fighting. Just really cool.... But I really did bring up all of those points but she said I "Didn't understand because I'm not Bi". That she has urges, and that girls and boy's are different of course. I wouldn't mind doing some group stuff don't get me wrong. But going out and messing around is straight up bull. I told her that I should be able to do the same if she could....and she said it was different becuase I was straight. Just like The Departed said. Shockingly similar situation....Thanks for the advice and thoughts guys. It's good to know it wasn't just me... |
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| ScarSnake | Sep 4 2008, 10:52 PM Post #14 |
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my ex was bi-sexual, she had dated other girls before me. I can understand where you're coming from with you not being comfortable with her doing it when most guys would be super stoaked about it. For me i didn't really care because she was coming home with me everynight so it didn't bother me, if she liked a girl enough she would bring them home with us. But at first i was pretty paranoid about all of it but once you get into a long relationship with someone you can trust something like that. But our relationship ended on a different note.. thats a whole other story |
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| 250Mav | Sep 4 2008, 10:59 PM Post #15 |
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i have a bisexual girlfriend as well her getting down with other chicks really doesnt bother me... my only complaint is that shes to jelous to get me in on the action lol |
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| The Black Devil Of Outer Heaven | Sep 4 2008, 11:04 PM Post #16 |
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Yeah, but you see It's not that It bothers me for that reason. I'm not insecure with myself or anything. But it's just that it's a form of cheating for her to be doing that stuff while she's with me....that's the reason I don't like it. Besides that she's going to go "mess" with other girls, and their feelings or whatever? Yeah, my girlfriends had girlfriends before me, so I can understand that. |
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| A-Yty | Sep 6 2008, 08:01 PM Post #17 |
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I would dump the slut. It's not the alleged sexual orientation that's the problem. Her Kate Perry act will likely lead to her cheating on you with other women and if you accept that, she'll likely move to men eventually. |
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| Johnyman | Sep 6 2008, 09:00 PM Post #18 |
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Haha. The sheer ridiculousness of this situation makes me laugh. As others have said before, this is indeed completely inappropriate behavior. See, if your girl weren't bi, THEN kissing other girls would be considered ''harmless playing''. The fact that she is inclined to have emotions towards the opposite sex is where the whole point gets missed. I suggest you talk this out with her, in someway. And if that fails, just try kissing boys 
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| Young Snake | Sep 7 2008, 06:58 PM Post #19 |
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Johny shoots and Johny scores. It pretty much sums up your situation really. She's bi, which means her attraction towards girls is on the same level as it is with guys. She can fall in love with girls, and such emotions are easily sparked by 'experiments' or 'playing'. So you're absolutely right, behaviour like that is unacceptable when you're in a relationship. |
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| The Black Devil Of Outer Heaven | Sep 7 2008, 11:02 PM Post #20 |
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You did sum it up quite nicely. Good advice everyone. I appreciate it. [small=-4]Never![/small] A-Yty
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